MATING IN CAPTIVITY by Esther Perel

I simply love Esther Perel for hitting the nail on the head when it comes to relationships and our continuous quest for secure love and passion.
As much as we share a fundamental need for security, we have an equally strong need for adventure and excitement in our romantic relationships.
Even if sexuality and emotional intimacy are two different sides of the same coin, that doesn’t mean they have to exclude each other.
According to Esther, desire and eroticism require some separateness and independence since these needs thrive on mystery and unpredictability.
This is really just the tip of the iceberg and I don’t feel I can do it justice unless you read it for yourself. Each relationship is unique in it’s own way but our longings are universal.

“Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy. Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness.”